Comments for Gender-ID Blog http://www.gender-id.com/blog The Web Log of the Gender Community Wed, 16 Jun 2010 03:36:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on Mike Penner/Christine Daniels by Robyn http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=83&cpage=1#comment-569 Robyn Wed, 16 Jun 2010 03:36:45 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=83#comment-569 Tina, I was reading about Christine and looking for ways to help my family understand me. I changed my name in March, and I'm having FFS in July, and SRS in December. It's so hard to handle the grief of losing everything you spent your life seeking. Friends, family, income, security, male privilege, and social status. But I hope your find your way. I've met people who detransitioned and handled it okay. But most, like us, will continue along the path that feels like the only acceptable one. I don't want to end up like Christine. I don't want you to end up like her either. I hope you have found a path that brings you peace. Tina, I was reading about Christine and looking for ways to help my family understand me. I changed my name in March, and I’m having FFS in July, and SRS in December. It’s so hard to handle the grief of losing everything you spent your life seeking. Friends, family, income, security, male privilege, and social status. But I hope your find your way. I’ve met people who detransitioned and handled it okay. But most, like us, will continue along the path that feels like the only acceptable one.

I don’t want to end up like Christine. I don’t want you to end up like her either. I hope you have found a path that brings you peace.

]]> Comment on T DAY by post op in britain http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=141&cpage=1#comment-561 post op in britain Sat, 29 May 2010 19:51:13 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=141#comment-561 Gender Reassignment doesn't work why ? Society's prejudices and this is real in Britain, Botched surgery by surgeons, Inability to sustain employment as a post op, Criminialisation by the police when you are the victim of hate crime not the other way round, You pass but you are never a woman just a tranny - the only transexuals that stand a chance are passing are those that transition as children - that is a fact - all of these factors conspire to cause depression in post op's I am certainly worse off and bitterly regret it though I have to live with my mistake and niavety now Gender Reassignment doesn’t work why ?

Society’s prejudices and this is real in Britain,
Botched surgery by surgeons,
Inability to sustain employment as a post op,
Criminialisation by the police when you are the victim of hate crime not the other way round,

You pass but you are never a woman just a tranny – the only transexuals that stand a chance are passing are those that transition as children – that is a fact – all of these factors conspire to cause depression in post op’s

I am certainly worse off and bitterly regret it though I have to live with my mistake and niavety now

]]> Comment on New Blogger by admin http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=117&cpage=1#comment-465 admin Sat, 20 Feb 2010 15:57:01 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=117#comment-465 Welcome Wendy! - Jenni Welcome Wendy! – Jenni

]]> Comment on The Survivor’s by Darlene http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=95&cpage=1#comment-200 Darlene Sun, 24 Jan 2010 23:43:11 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=95#comment-200 Very good my dear.. This is why I call you.... GOLD STAR!!! *big happy smile* Very good my dear.. This is why I call you…. GOLD STAR!!! *big happy smile*

]]> Comment on Why I’m undergoing FFS… further motivations in transgendered self actualization by Amy http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=70&cpage=1#comment-130 Amy Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:41:43 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=70#comment-130 Hey Rachel, I left a phone message at your place saying hi, but I didn't realize that you were going for FFS. Congratulations on your surgery, and I hope it went really well, and I hope to talk to you soon!!! Amy Hey Rachel,

I left a phone message at your place saying hi, but I didn’t realize that you were going for FFS. Congratulations on your surgery, and I hope it went really well, and I hope to talk to you soon!!!

Amy

]]> Comment on Coming Out at Work by sexgenderbody http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=74&cpage=1#comment-114 sexgenderbody Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:39:03 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=74#comment-114 I was moved and impressed by your honesty here. I don't know what the appropriate thing to say is, as a response. Simple platitudes, which normally seem silly to me, would be buffoonish on my part here. So, I'll simply state in your description (in this post and others), I am struck by your humanity. It is a trait we all share and although we have not met, I feel somehow as if I know you. That experience of shared humanity is something I look for. When I find it, I do not feel that I must know why we are alike in some way. I simply enjoy that it is so. -arvan I was moved and impressed by your honesty here. I don’t know what the appropriate thing to say is, as a response. Simple platitudes, which normally seem silly to me, would be buffoonish on my part here.

So, I’ll simply state in your description (in this post and others), I am struck by your humanity. It is a trait we all share and although we have not met, I feel somehow as if I know you. That experience of shared humanity is something I look for. When I find it, I do not feel that I must know why we are alike in some way. I simply enjoy that it is so.

-arvan

]]> Comment on Hurtful Words by Rachel http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=66&cpage=1#comment-106 Rachel Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:22:28 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=66#comment-106 This is an important issue. Quite frankly, a lot (if not most people) use the male pronoun because they simply can't get their heads around the idea that someone can change their sex; that quite literally, a male can become female. It happens to me too; even following my near future FFS and breat augmentation I'll still expect some people "I know" to "sir" me on occasion. Rest assured, it won't be any ambiguous gender clue I'm sending it'll be because they know of my past and simply can't believe or get their head around the idea that a male can become female. This also represents an argument for the "stealth team" I have no arguments against going stealth but for me it was a conscious decision based on various criteria to "out myself" and remain in a location where my past identity is widely known. My rationale was to illustrate a life well lived, loving and caring amongst a population that has been privy to a remarkable change. It's certainly not everyone's path but it's the path I've chosen. Much love, Rachel <3 This is an important issue. Quite frankly, a lot (if not most people) use the male pronoun because they simply can’t get their heads around the idea that someone can change their sex; that quite literally, a male can become female.

It happens to me too; even following my near future FFS and breat augmentation I’ll still expect some people “I know” to “sir” me on occasion. Rest assured, it won’t be any ambiguous gender clue I’m sending it’ll be because they know of my past and simply can’t believe or get their head around the idea that a male can become female.

This also represents an argument for the “stealth team” I have no arguments against going stealth but for me it was a conscious decision based on various criteria to “out myself” and remain in a location where my past identity is widely known.

My rationale was to illustrate a life well lived, loving and caring amongst a population that has been privy to a remarkable change. It’s certainly not everyone’s path but it’s the path I’ve chosen.

Much love,

Rachel <3

]]> Comment on Introduction to Tina by Rachel http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-105 Rachel Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:13:13 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=65#comment-105 Ditto, ladies. Welcome to the GID Blog, Tina. **hugs** I look forward to reading your insights and learning of your experiences as you continue to express your true self in the midst of an often critical and misunderstanding, mis-informed world. Ditto, ladies. Welcome to the GID Blog, Tina. **hugs** I look forward to reading your insights and learning of your experiences as you continue to express your true self in the midst of an often critical and misunderstanding, mis-informed world.

]]> Comment on Hurtful Words by admin http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=66&cpage=1#comment-98 admin Sat, 10 Oct 2009 16:03:37 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=66#comment-98 Hi Tina, I was at my doctor's today, and he's been my doctor for a very long time, long before transition. After seeing me I heard him in the outer office asking about some samples for me, and he referred to me as "he" to the office people. It didn't seem to occur to him that 'he' wasn't appropriate, and it hasn't been that way for 10 years. He's a nice guy, has been supportive through it al, and I don't think it was anything to get upset about. But still I was surprised, after all these years, to hear "he" out of him. Perhaps he just doesn't see me enough to have the gender switched in his mind. Jenni Hi Tina,

I was at my doctor’s today, and he’s been my doctor for a very long time, long before transition. After seeing me I heard him in the outer office asking about some samples for me, and he referred to me as “he” to the office people. It didn’t seem to occur to him that ‘he’ wasn’t appropriate, and it hasn’t been that way for 10 years. He’s a nice guy, has been supportive through it al, and I don’t think it was anything to get upset about. But still I was surprised, after all these years, to hear “he” out of him. Perhaps he just doesn’t see me enough to have the gender switched in his mind.

Jenni

]]> Comment on Introduction to Tina by admin http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=65&cpage=1#comment-95 admin Tue, 06 Oct 2009 23:42:00 +0000 http://www.gender-id.com/blog/?p=65#comment-95 Welcome Tina! You have a lot to say, and a lot to share. An important story, no doubt. I look forward to your posts! Jenni Welcome Tina! You have a lot to say, and a lot to share. An important story, no doubt. I look forward to your posts!

Jenni

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